I Hope You've Enjoyed All the Recent Spring-Like Weather in the Northeast!
Quite a bonus for November! After weeks of election craziness in this country, I feel like we deserved the uncharacteristically beautiful weather of the past weekend. And I recognize that despite the unseasonably warm temperatures we have recently experienced, winter is right around the corner.
For most of us, the thought of dark, cold winter days is very unappealing during any year. In fact, shorter winter days are often associated with the winter 'blues'. Some people actually suffer from a form of depression called Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), which stems from exposure to less light during this time of year. If you do experience depression related to the season, please know that there are very effective ways of treating this condition, and you should consult your doctor.
Both friends and clients that I have spoken to recently are even more concerned about this winter because of restrictions in place due to Covid-19. They are upset that air travel and short escapes to warmer climates seem to be less viable options. In addition, there are fewer indoor entertainment alternatives available now (limited indoor dining, no theater, etc.). The primary focus this season seems to be on the weather-related limitations, namely: cold dark days, social isolation, anticipation of loneliness and boredom, with few, if any, options to escape! As a result of this thinking, people are more likely to actually experience this winter in a very negative way. As I've mentioned in previous newsletters, mindset leads the way to creating our actual experiences in life.
But Good News...Coaching To the Rescue!!
As this Covid winter knocks at our doors, I have some suggestions for new ways to think about some of the negative thoughts currently swirling around in our heads. Because our thoughts create our feelings and ultimately, our actions, it is important to alter these negative thoughts to help us create a different experience of the winter. My hope is that the thought 'reframes' I am providing will allow you to have a more expanded, positive outlook and ultimately, a better experience of this upcoming season.
Before I give you my "Mindset Swaps" to improve your outlook this winter, I want to remind you not to be hard on yourself for your thoughts. If you do feel this rush of negativity or anxiety wash over you when thinking about the winter, just accept that these feelings are real for you.
• Take a few deep breaths (exhale longer than the inhale to relax your body).
• Accept whatever feelings you have about the winter. Pretending they do not exist is not the way to get rid of them. Simply acknowledge that you are feeling upset, nervous, angry, negative, whatever it is. It's okay, whatever you feel.
See your thoughts and feel them, because I have some effective ways for you to see these thoughts differently. In fact, you may end up feeling much more rejuvenated than you expected post-winter, and begin the Spring season feeling strong, happy and full of energy.
Mindset Swaps For a Happier Covid-19 Winter
Think Cozy, Not Dark and Depressing
The shorter days of winter make us think of darkness, but lots of positive things come to mind when we think about being inside a warm place on a cold night. You can create a warm, embraced feeling by:
Think Indulgence, Not Deprivation
Instead of thinking about what you don't have during this winter, you can actually focus on what you can indulge in that feels especially luxurious at this time of year.
Think Growth and Expansion, Not Boredom and Monotony
Why not take advantage of the extended time indoors to figure out ways to grow and feel more expansive? More darkness does not have to mean hibernation. Increased time indoors is the perfect time for personal growth: physically, intellectually or spiritually.
Think 'Daytime Socializing', Not 'No Socializing'
There are truly so many benefits to daytime socializing vs going out at night, particularly in bad weather.
Think 'Fashion Queen', Not 'Polar Bear'
For those of you who are interested in the fashion perspective of each season (guilty!!), this winter will put a few twists on how you spend your clothing budget.
Think Seasonal, Not Permanent
Remember, winter lasts only a few months. This winter will undoubtedly present some new challenges, but your attitude about those challenges plays a huge role in how you actually experience this time. The list above is by no means all-inclusive. I'd love to hear YOUR ideas for ways to reframe some of the negative thoughts in order to 'expand your vision' so you can find new possibilities for yourself. Feel free to reach out to me (hit "reply") and let me know what you've come up with. I always love to know what's working for you!
Let's stay connected...even more often!
To all my social media lovers, in addition to my presence on Facebook, I've finally joined the world of Instagram! Communicating on social media has been a great way to talk directly to the women I love, women like you. I enjoy hearing what you have to say, and seeing what resonates most with you as you navigate life during these 'tricky' times. My Instagram content is a bit more 'bite-sized' than these newsletters, but don't worry, they are still full of all the relevant intel! I am still discussing issues related to feeling better as you age, and will cover everything from food, movement, and lifestyle issues, to self-expression, slowing down and embracing joy.
I'd love for you to follow me on Instagram @wellnesscoachlori for discussions about things that can help you feel like you are aging better, and more importantly, like you are continuing to grow. And staying connected right now is a truly important way to learn, to thrive and to feel supported during these very challenging times.
Please come join me in this new way!
And as always, if there is any way I can help you get through a personally challenging time, or to meet your goals (big or small), while we are living life a little differently, click here and schedule a free discovery call. Then we can discuss how I can provide the system, stretch and accountability you need to get over some of the hurdles you are experiencing with respect to your health and life goals.
Together, we can take one step at a time so you experience life in a way that truly reflects the person you want to be as you age.
In Good Health,